12 things you don’t learn in school, but you should
Don’t you think that years ago we seemed to learn less and know more about life? Maybe we read more books? Let everyone try to answer for themselves. Well, he can write it down as a comment.
Languages, science, art, computers – are these things enough to prepare a person for independent living?
No, school does not give the child the necessary knowledge and skills for real life.
Maybe he relies on his family. But did the parents learn these things? They are not. Then how to teach your children? Obviously, both parents and children have to fill this gap on their own.
Unfortunately, the school teaches us how to become employees of successful people. Is that what we want? Hardly.
We want WE TO BE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE !
Surely someone here will insert the worn-out phrase, “School teaches us to think.”
And it really is. But this is certainly not enough.
There are few lucky people who come across brave teachers, teachers by vocation, who go beyond the curriculum and who by their example become not just teachers, but also mentors for children. The curiosity is that the management of education oppresses such people. Management has no interest in developing successful and creative individuals.
Let’s think about what we lack after years of learning.
For generations we have been taught that selfishness is a negative quality and we must fight it. Or we mistakenly define self-care as selfishness. Decide for yourself.
No matter what you think, what happens if we don’t take care of ourselves?
Every parent, like an eagle mother, takes care of her child and gives him love and goodness. He neglects his own life, his own dreams, his own health at the expense of his children.
And at one point he fell ill and weak in the arms of his children.
Those who have just raised their own children must give everything for the survival of their parents – they owe it to them. That’s what they saw, that’s what they learned about real life.
When do people live THEIR lives? I guess never…
Miracles of courage are not required to get out of this vicious circle. We just have to take control of our own well-being.
This is not selfishness. This is a concern for future generations. By aging beautifully, in full health and full consciousness, we provide freedom for our children to achieve their own dreams and live their own lives.
And let’s not underestimate them. They will appreciate this and will love and honor us no less than the other case of the vicious circle in caring for others.
What is self-care? There are two main directions.
- First: weight control, healthy eating, active lifestyle and wellness, sleep and rest
It is in this area that we try to fill the void of knowledge. That’s why I won’t go into theory – just get involved in one of our challenges and you’ll be taken care of as a VIP . < / strong>
- Second: Mental and Mental Health
Depression is already one of the leading causes of a variety of problems in students of all levels of education. Years ago we neglected it.
“Two slaps and back to work, where do you come up with these depressions!”
We are already convinced that this is a serious disease and should not be underestimated.
And it’s not just her.
In general, the mental problems of teenagers are often ignored and complaints are not taken seriously, attributed to their age.
No one teaches children how to live with negative emotions, no one teaches them to talk about them, or how to overcome them without hurting the feelings of others. They themselves do not understand what is happening to them and how to live with it. They often do not find understanding from their parents.
Neither the school nor the parents are prepared for effective communication with teenagers. In case of need it is good to turn to a specialist and there is nothing shameful or disturbing in this.
- Value Management
Setting priorities and setting goals. forming good habits and changing bad ones. If all this had been learned in school, in adulthood we would probably have worked more efficiently, done much more, gotten much less tired, and generally lived a richer life.
- Financial Management
The statistics are desperate. On average, about 15% in our country are considered financially literate. Another question is to what extent this is really the case.
Most people know almost nothing about banking services, do not know when to use a credit and debit card, in most cases immediately withdraw the money received in their accounts, do not know what their fees are and when they are formed.
Could such people become investors or at least choose the optimal banking product for passive income? Impossible.
These things are not mentioned at school, parents rarely discuss financial problems with their children.
And suddenly the children have grown up and have to deal with banks, budget, expenses and savings, taxes and all sorts of fees.
Further damage is caused by constant gambling ads and quick loans, which can further bury them if they succumb to temptation. And why not? Isn’t it: “You have a car – you have money… it’s easy.”
Maybe books on financial literacy can be found, but another problem arises – how to motivate children to read them?
In most cases, young people act on the “fire” principle – if a problem arises, they look for a solution on the Internet, they trust it too much and как “whatever the sword shows”.
In our club, people get basic knowledge about it and we show them how we do it.
- Time Management
Much has also been written about time management. There are suitable books. But nothing is learned in school.
To some extent, the barracks helped, at least for the boys, but it could no longer be relied on.
Perhaps the most successful is again the personal example of parents and teachers. They can show the principles of their personal effectiveness, how to deal with procrastination, how to invest their time instead of wasting or using it. And what these three things mean: wasting, using, and investing your time.
If the parents themselves know this.
In our club, people get basic knowledge about it and we show them how we do it.
- Communications, programming both together
In the very near future, many professions will disappear. They will simply be superfluous.
Many new ones will appear, usually related to engineering and development.
Programming skills will be useful not only for technicians but also for the humanities: for processing and analyzing large amounts of data or for automating routine tasks, for the needs of artificial intelligence.
Many majors already involve programming, even in high schools, but my personal experience shows two main problems:
- Untrained teachers, often making fun of children;
- Too narrow specialization in programming training.
The first problem must have been faced by everyone along with the complaints of their own children, I will explain what I mean in the second.
Wonderful programmers appear.
Wonderful communication specialists also appear.
But in most cases they are too narrow specialists, rarely some of them know enough from the knowledge of others and this arises as a problem.
Everything now happens in a network environment and in a “cloud”, and in different conditions that are never perfect. And for both programming and communication to be effective, they must be consistent with each other. It is inevitable. And nowhere does one learn in this way. There are few people who could teach children both at the same time.
- Marketing, business, advertising
The school trains employees.
It does not prepare entrepreneurs.
Teenagers are interested in business, sometimes they even succeed in it. But for most, creativity comes down to being influencers who advertise products or services they don’t even know about.
Successful people achieve it by trial and error.
Few of them get the knowledge on how to prepare a business plan, invent an advertising strategy, create their own “brand” and successful business.
- Public speaking skills
No matter how prepared, knowledgeable and capable a person is, it may not matter at all if he does not know how to present his ideas in a correct and good way.
Many people try, but make major mistakes and sound instructive, instead of intriguing with interesting exciting stories.
There is enough literature on how to speak in front of an audience, including in Bulgarian, but it is not taught in school. And you should.
- Relationship management. Harmonious relationships
Some schools have been trying to include lessons on family life for some time. And as usual, it does not rely on the opinion of psychologists, sexologists, sociologists and doctors, but on religion and “emerging out of nowhere” authors or influencers.
Most schools do not talk at all about how to build harmonious and equal relationships with a partner, how to respect each other, how to share household responsibilities and solve problems at school and personal relationships. No one talks about what to do with domestic abuse, and many people don’t believe it exists at all. No one talks about love disappointments and how to overcome them. Nobody talks about friendship, about the relationship between parents and teachers, about how a discussion is conducted and how a position is defended. And such lessons would help to avoid many problems and worries and to build successful personalities.
- Sexual literacy
Most of us are convinced that children need sex education. According to statistics, only 30% of people trust the school on this issue. And 61% are sure that in these lessons children should be talked to not so much about contraception, respect for the partner, safety and pleasure, as about morality.
In any case, despite the statistics, there is still no sex education in schools. It relies mainly on the Internet. But there the children will hardly find what they are looking for and the way they are looking for it. Serious wars are being fought over this topic, involving parents, teachers, clergy and politicians. And it seems that none of these groups takes into account the real needs of sexual education of children, but pursues their own goals. And the problems are growing: sexually transmitted infections, early pregnancy and violence.
Without competent sex education, children learn from unreliable sources, such as peers or pornography, which has little to do with normal sex between living people. Studies show that watching porn provokes cruelty to women (37 to 80% of such videos contain scenes of violence) and creates unrealistic ideas about the human body in general and sexual relations in particular.
Some children are saved only by antisocial behavior caused by addiction to computers and the Internet, but on the other hand, the same addiction slows down their development as mature and full-fledged individuals.
Labor training in schools is constantly changing its name, but this does not make it more adequate to life. To some extent, it still supports harmful gender stereotypes. It won’t hurt any boy to cook and clean, or a girl to stick wallpaper or repair a car. And this has nothing to do with the “new European values” for many genders, but with respect and mutual help in the family.
People are still incredibly naive: they don’t know the rules for working with bank cards, they trust dubious sellers of goods and services, they open dubious emails.
Can you imagine how dumb someone has to be to open a letter that his account in a certain bank has been closed when he has never had an account in it? And it happens more and more often.
And more and more people are succumbing to ads for getting rich quick, losing weight fast and achieving very much anything that is highly desired. And now it is easy to make a profile of every person who has entered the world wide web even for a short time.
Someone has to tell the child about the schemes that criminals use, teach them how not to succumb to their tricks, how to handle bank cards, how to shop online, etc.
Someone has to teach children how (and adults) how to keep their personal data, how to create complex passwords for different accounts and how to keep them, how to ignore strangers who are interested in communicating with them.
- Ability to learn, read and memorize (mnemonics)
Everyone knows we have to do it, but it’s not always just “training.” Yes, we have to read. Let’s read a lot! But we also need a strategy.
According to forecasts, the generations after 2010 will live in a completely different way. To cope with life successfully, schooling will not be enough at all.
They will be able to choose what to study, they will have to be able to check the accuracy and reliability of information sources, set goals, plan, allocate time and workload, assess their own knowledge and seek opportunities for implementation. .
They will have to deal with an ever-increasing amount of information that they must read, understand, learn and memorize.
Don’t we have to prepare for this now?
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